Self defence isn’t just about defending yourself if you are attacked. Self defence starts with seeking respect in everyday interactions. It is about recognising what is important to you, standing up for your rights, and voicing your preferences. Self defence includes recognising when you need to put your defences up and when it is safe to let people in. This suite of workshops provides the foundational self defence skills towards building respectful relationships with friends, family, and colleagues, identifying interactions that pose threat, and defending yourself.
Communicating with strength is a workshop about being yourself, protecting yourself, and building strong, respectful relationships with friends, family, and co-workers, at home, at work, and at school. It complements the women's safety and red-flags and self-defence workshops, and is the first step towards fostering meaningful and safe interactions and relationships.
- What boundaries are and why you need them
- Know yourself
- Communicating boundaries
- Recognising and respecting boundaries
- To notice boundary errors and violations.
- To tune in to what is important.
- To state and enforce clear boundaries, safely, while maintaining the relationship if you want to.
- Recognise, respect, and discuss other people's boundaries.
Recognising Red Flags
Violence against women is not unpredictable, but it also doesn't fit the stereotypes and myths. By knowing what to look for, we can be vigilant when we need to, not anxious all the time. By recognising danger early, and having thought about it in advance, we can enact our safety plan when we need to, rather than restricting ourselves all the time.
- Listening to your feelings
- Red flags (warning signs)
- Safety habits
- Acting on red flags
- How to listen to your feelings and distinguish well-founded fear from un-founded anxiety.
- Spotting red flags and risk factors so you can be vigilent when you need to, not all the time.
- Build everyday safety-habits that are non-restrictive, but minimise risk and maximise escape routes.
- What to do when you spot red flags.
Learn skills that could protect you and your family from harm. Workshops provide a friendly, safe environment to learn very important skills, including avoidance, de-escalation, and escape from potentially dangerous situations.
Studies show a relationship between self defence or assertiveness training and women’s physical and psychological responses to subsequent attacks.
Victims with pre-assault training were less likely to be assaulted (1) and more likely to resist (2). Further, that resistance stopped the offender or made him less aggressive than victims without training (2). Women with training before the assaults were angrier and less scared during the incident than women without training (2). Learning self defence skills can make a difference.
- Strategies and tactics
- Psychological preparation
- Verbal de-escalation skills
- Effective physical techniques
- Specific scenarios, relevant to you
- How to be confident but not foolish
- How to avoid different types of attacks and dangerous situations
- How to talk your way out safely
- How to maintain physical boundaries
- Effective striking and vulnerable targets
- Strategies to lower the odds of you being attacked: ‘Target Hardening’.
- Strategies for raising your odds of survival if you are attacked: Fight back hard; get away as soon as you can.
Workshops are 2 hours each. They are run regularly at Personal Strength, and can be run by appointment for 6 or more people at Personal Strength, or at your venue.
All workshops are appropriate for women, teenagers, and girls from 4th grade up. Communicating with Strength is also appropriate for men and boys from 4th grade up.
To register interest
To register interest, ask questions, or enquire about Parent and Teen workshops, or hosting these workshops at your school or workplace email Nicky or register your interest by clicking the button above.
- $50 each ($25 for returning participants),
- $90 for two workshops,
- $120 for all three workshops
(Enquire about family discounts).
Nicky Weeks (PhD)
is a psychologist with over 10 years experience, and also a black belt. Nicky runs Communicating with Strength and Recognising Red Flag workshops (among others).
has a 5th Dan Black Belt and has been teaching martial arts since 2001. Tim runs women's, teens, child, and mum and daughter Self Defence workshops, short courses, and classes.